I hope that today is the last of my re-posts for a while. I plan to resume new posts this coming Friday. It’s been a relentless schedule lately. But it’s getting lighter now, so look for a new post later this week. Today I’m posting a quotation that really resonated with readers last year. I think you’ll enjoy reading it again…or for the first time. See you on Friday with a new quotation.
Most people have a less than cordial relationship with change. Some have a hostile relationship with it. But change is an undeniable part of life. Whether it’s change that we welcome or change that we fear—change is inescapable. In fact, it’s been pointed out that the only real constant in life is change.
We also recognize that progress can only occur when there is change. The very definition of progress assumes that there is a change from what preceded. George Bernard Shaw made an important observation. He said, ‘Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.’ Change begins in the mind. Until the mind accepts that change is necessary or preferred—the change will be resisted.
But let’s address the quotation itself: People don’t resist change; they resist being changed. But why would we resist the very thing we know in advance will bring progress? Someone observed that, ‘Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same, but get better.’ But we know this is impossible. Things cannot get better without changing. But even knowing this we generally dislike change. We fight it, delay it, and argue against it. But why is this so? I think the great novelist Leo Tolstoy was on to something when he said, ‘Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.’ The fact of the matter is that nearly everyone wants the world to change. We want things in the world to improve. In both the larger world and in our own private world. But we want this improvement to take place without any change on OUR PART. But again, WHY is this so? I’d like to offer three reasons. I’m not suggesting these are the ONLY REASONS. But I suspect they cover the majority of reasons we resist change.
- Change makes us uncomfortable. We resist the change that requires changing ourselves because changing ourselves is uncomfortable. We get used to the way we are. We become accustomed to the way we do things. We become entrenched in the way we think. Changing these things brings uncertainly and unpredictability. So we resist.
- Change makes us fearful. Change implies that the future will be different than the present. And because unknowns create uncertainty, and because uncertainty creates fear—change makes us fearful. Fear does not sit well with us. We avoid it when we can. One way to avoid it is to resist change. So we do.
- Change requires work. Even if we see that the change will be beneficial. Even if we know that the change is necessary. We still resist it because we don’t want to do the work required. We settle for not making the change because in the end it’s easier. We choose easy over hard. We choose neglect over resolve. We choose the easy and familiar path over the hard and unknown path.
If we were given a list of possible changes ahead that were positive in nature. Changes that would represent progress and improvement. It’s likely that we would embrace all of them. But if the change requires US to change, we may end up resisting it. We don’t really resist the change—we resist changing ourselves. Change makes us uncomfortable. Change makes us fearful. Change is hard work. The next time you’re faced with a change, it might be good to keep this in mind. It may help you plunge in. It may help you not only face the change, but actually embrace it.
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